Monday, May 11, 2009

Life and random things I feel like sharing

We are completely moved, have been for a week now. I can not stress how much I hate moving. My body is not handeling the stress, both physical and mental, of the move very well. Lots of pain, but I am doing my best to keep working through it. I take lots and lots of breaks. If I take a few days off things will snowball into way to much work because we are still unpacking and finding places for stuff. I have found places for lots of things though and I think the unpacking is going pretty well. For the most part we are no longer living out of boxes anymore. Stuff is just not very organized or usuable in a lot of areas. Things like my sewing machine, extra bathroom stuff, lots of books, the extra tv and playstation, and so many holiday dishes and bakeware that I am still confused as to where to put. There simply isn't much in the way of storage, closets or cupboards in this place.

Accomplishments so far are getting the swingset up, lawn mowed, fence on the garden side up, clothesline up, tons of poison ivy down, phoneline strung to the computer room,and grden plots dug.

The yard here is huge and we seem to be attracting the whole neighborhood of kids. So far they all seem nice and behave themselves. There is a park about a block and a half down the street and Jason is really really wanting to be able to go to it on his own. It's very common for kids his age and younger to wander the whole area on thier own but I'm still hesitant to let him. He's only eight and I'm not terribly sure he's ready for the independance yet. Sometimes I do think I shelter him to much but I just want him to be safe. A part of me is excited he's showing an interest in making friends and being independant. My biggest arguement has been that he doen't have a watch so he won't know when to come home or check in. To counter this he has repetedly asked to borrow my phone so then he'll know what time it is lol. No way he's getting my phone but I'm thinking of a watch.

Hailey has made friend with a little girl across the street named Roberta. She's a nice little girl but I'm already getting tired of keeping track of what time she is suppose to be home when they are playing in the yard. She'll come over and ask to play and then tell me she has to be home in twenty minutes or at 6:00 which means I then have to pay attention to the clock for her. This happens a couple times a night. She lives right across the street, if they want her home at a certian time why don't they just stand on the porch and give a yell for her or walk over to our yard, or buy her a watch lol.

On other fronts JT and I are still not getting along. Although he has sincerly appologized for Friday nights freak out. Now I'm not always the funnest to be around but he is just a giant puss filled ass most of the time these days. It's next to imoossible for any of us to get along with him. He's constantly getting angry about one thing or another. It makes me wish he wasn't here a lot. He always seems like he is looking for a fight to pick. Earlier he was yelling at Xavier for watching him (and spotting all the worms)when he was diggin up part of the garden. He tried to pick a fight with me over the laundry room door being closed. Maybe he has PMS or something. I know his job is stressing him but the way he's acting is really crappy and childish most of the time. This is nothing new I just wish it would stop sooner rather than later.

For Mothers Day the little kids made me cards and Hannah made me paper flowers. JT cooked me breakfast and then woke me up to eat it in bed (would have been really nice if it didn't take me forever to actually be able to move and wake up in the first place). I then spent the rest of the day cleaning the whole damn house and working in the yard. Not exactly the best mothers day I've ever had. Hailey was really really happy to make and give me a card though. Her happiness over it was better than the card itself and kinda made up for the lack of anything remotely special about the day.

Hannah hasbeen gradually becoming much more greedy, selfish and entitled. I think I've enabled this behavior to a point to. She has stopped asking to do things and has just started to tell me she is going to do this or that, needs a new this or that and needs money for this or that. For my sanity and her health (because I was gonna kill her), I closed moms taxi service and bank for the summer. I made it clear to her that I would not be funding anything from swimsuits to even bus fair and that if she wanted to get somewhere she'd have to arrange it with someone else from now on (ecxept in the situation of a job or volunteering). I have also told her she has one month to either get a job or start volenteering somewhere or I cut of her cell phone, which I just reactivated and am paying for. I told her she needs to be doing something out of the house, besides hanging with friends, for at least ten hours a week and it can't be a class I have to pay for. It will be good for her and ten hours a week is nothing really. I think she will begin to appreciate her free time and any money she makes so much more this way. She'll also learn some better time mangement and personal responsibilty out of it. So far she is leaning towards a job. She's been printing of applications and asking me all kinds of questions on how to fill them out. I'm not sure how much of a chance she has at getting a job but I'll continue to encourage her to try. I know she could find a ton of volunteer oportunities out there but I don't think she wants to give her time away for free. She's become pretty selfish and developed a very high opinion of herself lately. A minimum wage job where she is is the low guy should take care of that pretty quick lol. I love her but she is nowhere near as entitled as she thinks she is!

2 comments:

geminig3 said...

Good idea about the job. Way to stand up for yourself about being the "taxi" too. All the teenage bellyaching is getting on my nerves too, as if our kids have it so bad...

Sorry things are rough in your life lately. Hopefully things will settle down as you settle in.

Anonymous said...

JT sounds like my hubby lately... we've walked on eggshells a lot, even though it's less than before last month's big fight we had. When he does work around the house, we dread it bc he's a bossy bear, & treats the kids like crap while doing it. And then, if he's the only one working--oh boy, look out! They can hang out together... And I second what Steph said--a job or some kind of responsibility might be perfect for "knocking" Hannah down a peg or two. ;-) *hugs*